Independent And Happy! Top 5 Reads for Single Ladies

I have been single for the majority of my life aside from a few wonderful men who I still respect and keep and touch with. I live in the Midwest and last year I relocated to a rural community in the Midwest.

To anyone unfamiliar with Midwest culture, especially rural Midwest culture, I’ll clue you in to an important aspect: Your marital status. It definitely matters. It’s what you do.

I have officially surpassed the ‘normal’ age to get married in the Midwest (early to mid twenties) and at 27 I anticipate, likely, I’ll surpass the normal age range nationally as well (late twenties). For too many years, this reality and/or the pursuit of changing this reality took so many hours of my life and so much of my happiness.

So, for all the fellow single ladies, I offer a list so that no matter where you live or what the average age of getting hitched is you will know you are not alone:

1. QuirkyAlone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics by Sasha Cagen

I have always been a hopeless romantic about life and about love. Quirkyalone was the first time I read something that made that okay. It made a declaration that it was perfectly okay to be #quirkyalone, #quirkyslut, #quirkycoupled and, essentially, just be who you are without concern for your marital status. My favorite part: the profiles on other #quirkyalones.

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2. It’s Not You 27 (wrong) Reasons You’re Single by Sara Eckel

If you’ve been single for any period of time, especially as a woman, you have probably heard 1 or ALL of the reasons listed in this book. Sara Eckel does a beautiful job of pointing out the contradictions (stop looking and you’ll find the one AND put yourself out there and get mingling or you’ll never find the one) and how, truthfully, the reality has more to do with good luck of finding a person you’re compatible with in your geographic location than it does with any of the countless, confusing, contradictory messages that are often fed to us.

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3. Single State of the Union: Single Women Speak Out on Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness Edited by Diane Mapes

This was the first book I ever read about being single in my early 20’s. It was the first time anyone, in a book or in person, had ever said it was okay if I was single. For as long as I can remember marriage has been an expected part of my life trajectory. This book gave first hand accounts of people being single. Some of the contributors were happy about it, others not, some were liberated, some wished their status were different. It was a beautifully honest exploration giving voice to a demographic that are all too often dismissed.

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4. Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

Out of all the books listed, I would say this is the most universally accessible for men and women. It offers incredible insight into the historical patterns of how people met and married, their feelings about it, and the ways dating has changed with apps like tinder and the constant access texting provides. Topped off with a nice dash of humor.

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5. All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister

As a single woman this was the most comprehensive, liberating, eye opening, and wonderful book I read on the matter of being single. It includes interviews and reflections of the author about being single, dating, having children (or not), among other worldwide topics. Where many books on being single, especially aimed to women, can feel like their offering a solution or condolences, this book doesn’t. It offers straightforward information for single women, in what seems like the first time ever, who have become the majority.

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Have you read any of these? What are your thoughts?

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