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Being cheated on is, without a doubt, one of the worst things someone can experience. There are a lot of questions that go unanswered and the aching stabbing in your heart seems to just be a reminder of what your partner did. In the midst of your heartbreak, know that so many people have been right where you are in their relationships at one point or another. I hope you find some comfort in these books and that they will help guide you into doing whats best for you in order to heal and move on.
1. The Silent Wife by A.S.A. Harrison
Fans of Gillian Flynn’s Gone Girl will find themselves thrown into this psychological thriller that will frighten you into believing you are in this fictional, thought highly dramatic world. Jodi and Todd, similar to most married couples, have hit a snag in their marriage that neither one of them wants to face. These two main characters are about as different as two people can be. Infidelity has a comfortable place in their relationship, as does blindsided denial. Sooner or later though, they snap and the affects of losing their minds proves to be more dangerous than they ever imagined.
2. The Stuff That Never Happened by Maddie Dawson
Annabelle McKay has a life that would stir up passionate envy in any woman. She has a wonderful husband who loves and is fully committed to her, two equally beautiful children and a spectacular home. There’s only one truth that Annabelle cannot shake from her heart no matter how hard she tries: she’s in love with another man. What do you do when you cannot fight your emotions any longer? Is true love worth sacrificing an ideal life?
3. When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships by Mira Kirshenbaum
Mira Kirshenbaum has been a therapist for years and has ultimately had to help many of her clients unravel their conflicted emotions after they have been betrayed by their partner. In her book, she speaks in vivid detail all about the various questions and thoughts one might have while going through this heartbreaking ordeal. The author also gives insight about over 17 different types of affairs, which, while it probably doesn’t make the matter lighter, will hopefully bring more clarity to the relationship. Mira is also the author of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, a practical book that can help you decide if it’s best for you to stay in your relationship or move on as well as, I Love You But I Don’t Trust You, a guide about restoring trust in broken relationships.
4. Why We Broke Up by Daniel Handler and Maira Kalman (Art)
Why We Broke Up is a great novel that includes just the right amount of humor and vulnerability within its pages. The story follows Min, a teenage girl who is a fanatic of Old-Hollywood movies, as she recounts all the times, memories, and one of a kind items she’s collected throughout her relationship with her ex, Ed. This one is bound to make you smile and help you get your mind off of your own relationship woes.
5. I Wrote This For You by pleasefindthis and John Ellis (photographer)
I’ve personally had the opportunity to read this one and let me tell you, it is unlike anything you have ever read or will read. It connects to the reader in such an intimate and profound way that really makes you believe that the author, of who’s name is interesting in and of itself, has truly written these words just for you. A similar work by this author is the equally as stunning: I Wrote This For You and Only You.
6. Promise Me by Barbie Bohrman
An original story that tugs on the heartstrings and reminds us that no matter how painful an experience may be, the only way to heal from it is to face it. Our main character, Sabrina Chandler, went through what all teenagers, and adults for that matter, fear: she caught her boyfriend and her best friend lip-locked and looking oh so cozy together. Ten years later, Sabrina has seemed to find a steady, comfortable rhythm in her new life in Miami, until she finds herself face to face with Tyler, the same boyfriend who cheated on her years ago.
7. Cheaters by Eric Jerome Dickey
Author of the widely popular bestsellers, Sister, Sister, Friends and Lovers, and Milk in My Coffee, Eric Jerome Dickey brings readers another story full of drama, temptation and laugh out loud moments. Cheaters follows an array of characters who are having to deal with a cheating husband, wife, or potential boyfriend and the roller-coaster reactions of all involved. A classic story by this beloved author.
8. It Isn’t Cheating If He’s Dead by Julie Frayn
Haunted by her fiance who has been missing for four years, Jemima has been trying to keep herself busy with work and community help activities. When the body of Gerald, her husband to be, is found miles and miles away from their home, Jemima is horribly shaken up. With the help of Detective Wight, she is determined to discover what happened. As this case begins to be uncovered, Jemima finds out that maybe her fiance wasn’t exactly the man she thought he was.
9. He’s Gone by Deb Caletti
A touching and surreal story following a woman who, returning from a night out on the town one Sunday morning, discovers that her husband has completely disappeared. She is forced to confront the issues that they both have deeply buried and lay everything on the line to find out the truth of, not only what happened to her partner, though what had forced them apart long before he was gone.
10. When Sorry Isn’t Enough: Making Things Right With Those You Love by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas
Sometimes even when a genuine apology is given, feelings are still hurt and people may hold onto that hurt for a while. Ultimately though, forgiveness is a path to freedom and we must do so to heal ourselves. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, though it does help you move forward. When Sorry Isn’t Enough is a wonderful book to help you sort through your tangled emotions and find your way to peace after pain. Gary Chapman is also the author of the best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages, a book that teaches about how each of us accepts and receives love in different ways.
11. Beyond the Breakup: Understanding Your Ex-Boyfriend from the Male Perspective by Andrew Aitken
Now, this is one you might only want to read if you’re in the mood for it because if you just dive right into it, it might make you even more upset. This is a unique book that helps one to understand, even a little bit, of what goes on in their partner’s heads. Even after the breakup.
12. Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened To You by Susan J. Elliot JD. MED
It’s crazy how life works but, often enough, when you’re going through something especially challenging and painful, you’re being set up for something even better. Check out this book to help you keep your chin up through the storm you may be facing.
13. The Breakup Survival Guide For Men by Susanna Gold
When it comes to cheating, people always usually assume that it’s the woman who has been cheated on, rather than a man who’s been cheating on. It’s an assumption that society has had forever and it sucks because guys get cheated on all the time too. Here’s a breakup guide that is just for the guys.
14. The Break-up Bible: Why Relationships End and Living Through the Ending of Yours by Daphne Rose Kingma
The ending of a relationship of any kind is tough, really tough, but you’ll find yourself feeling stronger and wiser after its over and done. This is a practical help for moving on from a break-up one step at a time.
15. Adultery by Paulo Coelho
Adultery, released in 2014, is one of the more recent works of this talented author. This novel explores what it means to really be happy, what happiness essentially is defined by and if that is ever really enough for us. Coelho is the author of the best-selling book, The Alchemist, among numerous others.
16. Freedom From Toxic Relationships: Moving on from the Family, Work, and Relationship Issues That Bring You Down by Avril Carruthers
Not just romantic relationships, but the relationships we have with our family, close friends and co-workers can cause a lot of stress too. Some people, no matter in what part of our lives their place may be, we have to deal with, though the ones we choose to have in our lives should always lift us up and be a positive presence.
17. Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life by Judith Orloff M.D.
No matter what life throws at us, its amazing to have a loving foundation and support system, however, we must learn to love ourselves too. That starts with thinking the best of ourselves and not allowing negative emotions to rule our lives. This book is a great place to start!
The truth of the matter is that breakups suck and if it ended badly, it’s going to take a minute before all is healed. Remember though, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. I’ll leave you with the wonderful words of C.S. Lewis:
“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”
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